We find out the heart only by dismantling what
the heart knows. By redefining the morning,
we find a morning that comes just after darkness.
We can break through marriage into marriage.
By insisting on love we spoil it, get beyond
affection and wade mouth-deep into love.
We must unlearn the constellations to see the stars.
— Jack Gilbert, from “Tear It Down,” The Great Fires: Poems 1982-1992. (Alfred A. Knopf, 1995)